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Why is making constructive change in your life so hard?

Backstory – six months ago, as the result of some coaching, you’d identified some unprofitable behaviours you’d concluded needed to be changed. To be honest, you’d not really thought much about this kind of thing before but some people’ (including your best friend, your spouse, and your boss) had been increasingly complaining that when things didn’’t go your way, you got angry and  aggressive. Now, as the result of coaching, you understand that this behaviour is down to ‘attachment strategies’ formed during infancy. OK, it’s time to move on!  After all, who wants baggage from childhood holding them back? In…

Dear Taurus – ready for revolutionary change?

On 16 May 2018, Uranus enters the zodiac sign of Taurus. This will mean different things to different people. But one thing that’s for certain is that sometime between 16thMay and April 2026, each and every Taurean will be for an interesting ride when Uranus conjuncts his or her natal Sun. This is a perfect time for astrological coaching. To understand why, remember that Uranus was discovered by William Herschel (in Bath, England) around 1781 – a time of revolution – both for the United States and France. It was also the time of the Industrial Revolution – massive breakthrough…

Transference & Countertransference for Coaches

The psychological realty is that both coaches and their clients come into a session with personal agendas that will feed into the session for better or worse. One aspect of this is what is known by therapists and psychologists as transference/countertransference, something they are trained to spot as well as to deal with it. Usually, however, coaches do not benefit from such training and hence may mistake transference/countertransference for any number of things. De Haan reminds us that unspotted transference/countertransference can lead to serious client/coach misunderstandings, mistakes, the gradual deterioration of the coaching relationship, as well as unconscious collusion and/or…

Raising Client Awareness through coaching – why and how?

Under the Association for Coaching (AC) Guidelines (Rev. June 2012), raising awareness in clients is one of twelve key competencies for coaching. So, what might constitute awareness, why is it important, and how might it be achieved? According to the OED (n), awareness brings one into a state of consciousness (OED, n, b) which in turn requires obtaining facts and information regarding something about or internal to oneself. Eurich (2018), organisational psychology and executive coach, suggests that self-awareness can be defined in many ways but basically, it boils down to either 1) internal awareness – or your own values, passions,…

Psychological projections – uncomfortable gifts for a more authentic you

It’s only natural to assume that the world is as we see it and that people are as we imagine them to be. But the reality is a bit more complicated than that and part of the reason is because of the psychological phenomena known as ‘projection’. According to psychology folks, projection is an automatic process whereby the contents of your own unconscious are perceived to be in others. According to astrology folks, projection is down to a particular planet (or group of planets) in one’s natal chart that is, in effect, disowned and attributed to others. According to counsellors…

Today and Tomorrow are ‘serious play’ days. YEAH!

With the Sun in Pisces (oneness with life & nature) and the Moon in Gemini (student/child) today is a ‘serious play’ day. In the Joie de Vivre tarot deck, we find Bliss and her mer-bunny friends, Charity and Innocence, swimming side by side. Oh, what fun! A lovely day spent with best friends playing in the sea. Naturally Bliss and her friends are enjoying themselves. Why wouldn’t they? But I’m betting that they also have some method to their ‘madness’ and for want of a better term, I’ll call that ‘serious play’. In a nutshell, this means play done for…

Why not tell yourself a new & better story?

You’ve worked hard. But to date, your actions have not delivered the desired results. More likely than not, this is because of undesirable (i.e. outgrown) behaviours, which in turn, have been driven by undesirable (i.e. outgrown) stories about yourself to which, over time, you’ve become attached. It only makes sense that to get desired results, you’ll need to manifest different behaviour that is fuelled by new and better stories. This is precisely where astrological coaching comes in. For example, Mr W has struggled to forge a stable career. Every job that he’s ever enjoyed has ended in ‘tears’ – either…

Lunar Implications for Coaching

The first step in coaching practice is to create a holding container or space where clients feel safe and secure enough to explore themselves and their situation. In order to accomplish this, the coach must first feel safe and secure in his or her own container or space. Astrologically, the ability feel safe and secure is most aptly represented by one’s natal Moon. The Moon’s placement by sign: Suggests what you need to feel safe and satisfied, Indicates how you ‘nurture’ self and others, Describes your feeling nature – how you interact with your environment and instinctively react to events…

Mercurial Implications for Coaching

MYTHOLOGICAL MERCURY presides over exchanges, barters, and communication. As the patron god of crossroads, he presides over connections of every kind, is the god of thieves (the other side of the business deal), although a god in his own right, he is the winged messenger of all the gods, presides over every aspect of the alchemical process, turning lead into gold, is the psychopomp, bringing that which lies hidden in the unconscious into consciousness. PSYCHOLOGICAL MERCURY Not surprising then, that Mercury governs the therapeutic process, dependant is it is on dialogue, transference, consciousness, and integration. Thus, when a counsellor is…

Happy Birthday Aquarius

What might those with Sun in Aquarius expect this year? Goals and values serve each other. With Venus and the Sun conjunct (in Aquarius), you can look forward to a harmonious period. Enjoy music, the arts, anything and everything that not only makes you feel good, but also that is in keeping with your personal values. Not certain what those values might be? Great time for some ‘soul-searching’! You might even have a go at some standardised tests – for example, https://www.valuescentre.com/mapping-values/values.  Key words for Aquarius: dispassionate, impersonal, nonconformist, observant, idealist – sound familiar? Motivations of self and others. With Pluto…