Category: coaching
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The Art of Communication
we can each process only 5-9 chunks or nuggets of information at a time and so we use ‘metaprograms’, or unconscious filters, to ‘select’ them from the shower of stimuli we receive. These patterns run behind the scenes in our brains, so automatic that we usually don’t even realise they’re there
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The Benefits of Magical Thinking
21 million Americans suffer from Paraskevidekatriaphobia or fear of Friday the 13th. Yet, according to a 2008 Dutch study, Friday the 13th is statistically safer than other Fridays because people either choose to stay at home or those that do venture out, take more care than usual. Yesterday, I was privileged to attend a lecture at…
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When’s your Mid Life Crisis?
Astrologically, the timing of your mid-life crisis is about as predictable as it gets. After all, they’re generational transits and you’ll share them with many others. But how each of you choose to handle this time differs widely. Some view it as a profound opportunity while others see it as a terrible loss and some,…
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Why is making constructive change in your life so hard?
Backstory – six months ago, as the result of some coaching, you’d identified some unprofitable behaviours you’d concluded needed to be changed. To be honest, you’d not really thought much about this kind of thing before but some people’ (including your best friend, your spouse, and your boss) had been increasingly complaining that when things…
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Dear Taurus – ready for revolutionary change?
On 16 May 2018, Uranus enters the zodiac sign of Taurus. This will mean different things to different people. But one thing that’s for certain is that sometime between 16thMay and April 2026, each and every Taurean will be for an interesting ride when Uranus conjuncts his or her natal Sun. This is a perfect…
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Transference & Countertransference for Coaches
The psychological realty is that both coaches and their clients come into a session with personal agendas that will feed into the session for better or worse. One aspect of this is what is known by therapists and psychologists as transference/countertransference, something they are trained to spot as well as to deal with it. Usually,…
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Raising Client Awareness through coaching – why and how?
Under the Association for Coaching (AC) Guidelines (Rev. June 2012), raising awareness in clients is one of twelve key competencies for coaching. So, what might constitute awareness, why is it important, and how might it be achieved? According to the OED (n), awareness brings one into a state of consciousness (OED, n, b) which in…
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Psychological projections – uncomfortable gifts for a more authentic you
It’s only natural to assume that the world is as we see it and that people are as we imagine them to be. But the reality is a bit more complicated than that and part of the reason is because of the psychological phenomena known as ‘projection’. According to psychology folks, projection is an automatic…
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Today and Tomorrow are ‘serious play’ days. YEAH!
With the Sun in Pisces (oneness with life & nature) and the Moon in Gemini (student/child) today is a ‘serious play’ day. In the Joie de Vivre tarot deck, we find Bliss and her mer-bunny friends, Charity and Innocence, swimming side by side. Oh, what fun! A lovely day spent with best friends playing in…
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Why not tell yourself a new & better story?
You’ve worked hard. But to date, your actions have not delivered the desired results. More likely than not, this is because of undesirable (i.e. outgrown) behaviours, which in turn, have been driven by undesirable (i.e. outgrown) stories about yourself to which, over time, you’ve become attached. It only makes sense that to get desired results,…