In yet another characterisation exercise for my new memoir, I’m digging into the astro-personality of my husband, JWM. He plays the knight in shining armour who rescues me from the Wicked Witch of A ‘dam.
Although he won’t admit it, JWM’s father is a huge influence in his life. This makes the nature of the bond between them even more important because it operates unconsciously.
The key astrological configurations in father/son relationships are (1) Saturn (discipline and control), (2) the Sun (validation of Self) and (3) Mars (survival instinct). The concepts here are clash, struggle, opposition, fear, defeat, and betrayal.
In myth, Saturn and Mars are mortal enemies. Yet they absolutely need each other. It’s interesting that Saturn functions not only as the father figure in a young man’s life but also as the unavoidable aging process that eventually brings the young buck to his knees.
JWM’s Saturn (structure/perfection) in Aries (sense of omnipotence) sits on his father’s Sun/Uranus (break w/ tradition) in Aries; JWM never stops judging his father. His father doesn’t know how to react. Their interactions take on a decidedly defensive tone. The young ram must butt against something if he’s to make any progress at all.
A young man’s sense of direction must come from his notion of the ‘father figure’. Because his Sun is in Aquarius, JWM needs his father to be a visionary who accomplishes nothing less than transforming the free world. Whether his father achieved this isn’t the point. The point is that with JWM’s Sun square Mars/Neptune conjunction (dissociation from action), he needs to see his father that way.
So not surprisingly, when I first met JWM in A ‘dam he was an unfocused drifter. His father had failed to unleash JWM’s Mars energy (there’s no synastry there). But I did.*
According to Liz Greene, the energy of Neptune/Mars often manifests through romantic heroism. That’s just what it did. Enter my knight in shining armour whose Neptune/Mars in Scorpio formed a perfect trine with the Mars (Cancer) of Alieke, the Wicked Witch of A ‘dam.
* My Uranus (liberation) in Cancer (nurturing) trines JWM’s Neptune/Mars in Scorpio (passion).