Tagged Relationships

Attachment Theory & Narrative Coaching

Recent studies show that the stories we tell ourselves become so enmeshed with our cognitive functions, that they – and not any accurate assessment of actual experience –  underpin 80% of our actions. According to ‘attachment theory’, the majority of these stories are formed during infancy, when we are first bonding with ‘mother’. Not only are our stories archetypal in nature (i.e. common to all humankind), but they are so deeply imbedded in our psyches that, without us even realising it, they play out over and over again. Worse, these stories are so important to our perceived safety, that they…

Happily ever after for Mr and Mrs W?

For some months, Mr and Mrs W have been suffering some marital problems. However, they have been working fervently toward a mutually-agreeable solution. In the face of what would appear to be a very recent and serious set-back towards that goal, Mrs W has asked whether she and Mr W will stay together and eventually find happiness? YES – this happy result should become clear in either 5 days, 5 weeks, or even possibly, 5 months. However, until then, expect further testing times (and manipulative power-plays). ANALYSIS: Because Mrs W is the querent, she is represented by Venus – ruler of…

The Future of Ms P’s Unconventional Marriage

Out of the blue, Ms P has announced her intention marry another woman in June of this year. Her family have asked whether this ‘unconventional’ marriage is in Ms P’s best interest? SUMMARY – In the shorter term, perhaps not – at least in the sense that for the next couple of years, this relationship is likely to be a source of considerable tension for Ms P both domestically and economically. However, if Ms P rises to the occasion during her upcoming Saturn return and addresses her priorities in a realistic and adult manner, she has the opportunity to redefine her life…

Will Mr A be tempted again?

Will Mr A be ‘tempted’ back to his former lover, Ms C? No – something has happened within the last 20 or so days that has caused Mr A to adopt a complete ‘change of heart’ – whether he is completely comfortable with this new position is a different matter – suggestions are that he is not. But what it is clear is that he’s chosen to take a ‘holier than though’ attitude re: his family vs. his extramarital affair – and that this likely has  much with his finances and business prospects. The affair with Mc C is now ended and…

Ms A to spill beans about hubby’s lover?

In the eyes of her husband, Mr A, both Ms A and the marriage are in a slightly weaker position than that of the lover and his job is already in a debilitated condition. Spilling the beans, so to speak, may not only cause him to lose his job (which may happen anyway), but it will be highly disruptive and do nothing to strengthen her marriage.

Composite Sun/Mercury

When composite Mercury/Sun are in square or opposition, expect miscommunication (whether or not purposeful). The parties to the relationship may well feel as if they’re speaking at cross purposes; what is said by one is not what is heard by the other.

Composite Venus Conjunct Composite Uranus

  The composite chart is created by taking the midpoint between pairs of each of two person’s natal planets (in this case Venus and Uranus) and using them to create a third, new chart. The composite chart is not the same as synastry, which examines how one person impacts the other. Instead the composite chart represents the relationship as a whole giving insight into the dynamics upon which it, as a relationship, functions. Composite Venus reflects the power of attraction between parties to a relationship as well as the ideals which the relationship is meant to express. Venus operates by differentiation; this is X and that is…

Composite Mercury Conjunct Composite Neptune

The composite chart is created by taking the midpoint between pairs of each of two person’s natal planets (in this case Mercury and Neptune) and using them to create a third, new chart. The composite chart is not the same as synastry, which examines how one person impacts the other. Instead the composite chart represents the relationship as a whole giving insight into the dynamics upon which it, as a relationship, functions. Composite Mercury symbolises the manner and method in which communication occurs in the relationship. It also suggests something about the nature of the decisions that you, as a…