Recent studies show that the stories we tell ourselves become so enmeshed with our cognitive functions, that they – and not any accurate assessment of actual experience – underpin 80% of our actions. According to ‘attachment theory’, the majority of these stories are formed during infancy, when we are first bonding with ‘mother’. Not only are our stories archetypal in nature (i.e. common to … Read More Attachment Theory & Narrative Coaching
For some months, Mr and Mrs W have been suffering some marital problems. However, they have been working fervently toward a mutually-agreeable solution. In the face of what would appear to be a very recent and serious set-back towards that goal, Mrs W has asked whether she and Mr W will stay together and eventually find happiness? YES – this happy result should become clear … Read More Happily ever after for Mr and Mrs W?
Out of the blue, Ms P has announced her intention marry another woman in June of this year. Her family have asked whether this ‘unconventional’ marriage is in Ms P’s best interest? SUMMARY – In the shorter term, perhaps not – at least in the sense that for the next couple of years, this relationship is likely to be a source of considerable tension for … Read More The Future of Ms P’s Unconventional Marriage
Will Mr A be ‘tempted’ back to his former lover, Ms C? No – something has happened within the last 20 or so days that has caused Mr A to adopt a complete ‘change of heart’ – whether he is completely comfortable with this new position is a different matter – suggestions are that he is not. But what it is clear is that he’s … Read More Will Mr A be tempted again?
In the eyes of her husband, Mr A, both Ms A and the marriage are in a slightly weaker position than that of the lover and his job is already in a debilitated condition. Spilling the beans, so to speak, may not only cause him to lose his job (which may happen anyway), but it will be highly disruptive and do nothing to strengthen her marriage.
Fear of loss and betrayal can be all consuming with this configuration – when his emotional needs are not met, those close to him can expect sulky, manipulative behaviour.